Today I wanted to post about collaborative circles. At work I’m part of the marketing team. All members have diverse talents. We collaborate together to make the team greater than the sum of its parts.
In collaborative situations, the goals don’t seem as clear as I’d like them to be. That’s why I enjoyed reading “Collaborative Circles – Friendship Dynamics and Creative Work” by Michael P. Farrell
The book starts out with the adage, nearly the same as Steve Jobs is quoted saying: “Great things in business are never done by one person. They’re done by a team of people.”
“The best things come … from the talents that are members of a group; every man works better when he has companions working in the same line, and yielding to the stimulus of suggestion, comparison, emulation. Great things have of course been done by solitary workers, but they have usually been done with double the pains they would have cost if they had been produced in more genial circumstances. – Henry James”
The most important thing that prevents collaboration from happening is a closed off group that is dominated by a single gate keeper.
“If communication within a friendship group is open, if the members are not dominated by a defensive mentor anxious to preserver a particular vision of the field, the interaction in the group may start percolating toward a new vision.” – Farrell
The biggest insight regarding collaboration comes halfway through the book. Ever been paired off for group work in a class only to find that your collaborators were pessimistic Eeyores?
“One of the most important contributions of a collaborator is to serve as an enthusiastic audience. A respected peer who serves as admiring but demanding audience can be a powerful stimulus to creative work. When the mirroring other takes the creative person seriously, attends to small advances, and responds with appreciative criticism, the person becomes more centered and invests more in the creative process.” – Farrell
So what’s the formula for a productive collaborative circle?
“The center coalition consists of the members who consolidate the insights that emerge within collaborative pairs, integrate them into a coherent theory , and convey the vision to newcomers into the circle.” – Farrell
And finally, why can’t we meet online instead of in-person?
“Internet communication may facilitate the formation of circles, and it may enable them to maintain contact between meetings, but I do not think it allows for the kind of in-depth dialogue that leads to meaningful personal development and creative work. For this kind of interaction, there is no substitute for ritualized meetings and working side by side.” – Farrell
I hope these insights clarify the role you play in a collaborative group. To summarize the suggestions for better collaboration, stick to these goals:
- Work in groups: Great things have been done by solitary workers but they have usually been done with double the pains they would have cost if they had been produced in more genial circumstances
- Be open: Keep out the defensive mentors and anxious preservers
- Be enthusiastic: Sometimes being the best collaborator is being an enthusiastic audience
- Meet in-person: In-person meetings allow for in-depth dialogue that’s required for meaningful personal development and creative work.
Did this help clarify the role collaborative circles play in creative work? Contact me I’d love to hear about it.
Today I’ll be posting on Judson Brewer’s “The Craving Mind.” This book has a bunch of good ideas regarding how to curb your social media use.
A lot of habit-breaking advice recommends mindfulness. This usually means, “If I am aware of what I am doing, I won’t indulge in bad habits.” But what if there’s more to the meaning of mindfulness than you think?
In “The Craving Mind.” Brewer clarifies the role or mindfulness in stopping our bad habits:
“Mindfulness is just about being interested in, and getting close and personal with, what is happening in our bodies and minds. It is really this willingness to turn toward our experience rather than to try to make our unpleasant cravings go away as quickly as possible.” – Brewer
Human beings are very bad at turning toward their experiences rather than trying to make their unpleasant cravings go away as quickly as possible.
In a study, participants were asked to stay in a quiet room by themselves for 20 minutes. They weren’t allowed access to any of their usual distracting devices – no smartphones, no tv, no radio. All they had was a tiny device that delivered an electrical shock when the participant pushed a button.
Here’s the surprising thing. The majority of the participants used the device to shock themselves and keep themselves entertained rather than face their own solitary thoughts. Let me repeat: they rather shock themselves than be forced to listen to their own thoughts!
If mindfulness is more than the awareness of your thoughts, it is the willingness to turn toward our experience rather than trying to make our unpleasant cravings go away as quickly as possible. How do we prepare ourselves for this willingness?
Everyone’s on social media. But not everyone posts. I believe the first step to turning toward our experience is to be mindful of what you get from posting to Social Media:
“We learn to go online or post something to our social media sites in order to get the reward that indicates we are relevant, we matter. Each time we are assured, we get reinforced, the loneliness is dissipated, and the connection feels good. We learn to come back for more.” – Brewer
Mindfulness works to curb your addictions by giving yourself enough time, energy, and space to examine just why you are taking part in them. The first step is calming your mind and sorting your thoughts.
“A human mind is a wandering mind, and a wandering mind is an unhappy mind.” – Brewer
Brewer goes into more detail to describe the process of observing and being mindful to curb addictive behaviors.
“We taught people to pay attention to their habit loops so that they would become disenchanted with their previous behaviors by seeing clearly what rewards they were actually getting. Target craving and you can conquer an addition. And this targeting of craving was not through brute force but, counter-intuitively, through turning toward or getting close to it. Through direct observation, we can become as the term ‘asava’ is translated, less intoxicated.” – Brewer
So if you still feel bad about yourself for posting on social media, remember this quote,
“Ego, the self which he has believed himself to be, is nothing but a pattern of habits.” – Alan Watts
Change your habits, change your life. Did this post help to clarify the role of mindfulness is curbing your Social Media habit? Contact me, I’d love to hear about it.