“Positive or negative or completely ineffectual, you are having an impact – on yourself, on those you lead, on your peers, on your customers, on your boss, on your kids, on the barista at the coffeehouse.” – Cavanaugh
It is not possible to have no impact. Let’s say that aloud together.
It is not possible to have no impact.
Just by our living, we are creating problems for other people. How about flipping that default action and thinking about it differently.
If we can’t help but impact those around us, why not be intentional about minimizing the damage we do by just being here.
First we need to check ourselves and get into a practice of gratitude.
Let’s play a game.
Get yourself a moleskine notebook. If you can’t get one don’t let that stop you! Get a notebook of some sort and put a pen in it.
Leave it on your nightstand when you go to bed.
When you wake up, make it your mission to write 3 things that you’re grateful for. They can be anything.
Try to come up with 3 new ones each day. If you can’t think of any new things to be grateful for, that’s not a problem. Loop back around to your previous lists and more specifically define just what makes you grateful about it.
Creating a giant list of things is not the goal. The process of noticing how great life really is forces your brain to see more clearly.
Do this for 30 days straight.
You will feel your perspective shift. From this stance of gratitude, your being will shift. You will subtly move toward a baseline of kindness and gratitude.
In Contagious Culture, Cavanaugh suggests answering one of the following seven questions in your morning gratitude journal:
- What am I grateful for today?
- What relationship do I want to nurture and celebrate?
- What is the thing that’s bugging me or scaring me or whatever?
- How am I contributing to it, or what am I assuming?
- What am I going to do about it – even the littlest thing?
- How am I going to take care of myself today?
- What is the impact I want to have today?
If you’re going to have an impact no matter what you do (or don’t do) you might as well make it compassionate, kind, and caring.